An abridgment.
How often does one communicate with their family? What is the kind of information one shares? Why is it so difficult to cut loose, open up and give the slip to your own flesh and blood as compared to someone that is out of the circle?
Occasionally, people ask me to be the intermediary. When asked why they’re incapable to hold the conversation with the other, the reply will be the age, generation, cultural etc. gap. They haven’t even tried. I suppose, the hurdle is caused due to neither of the parties willing to initiate the initial step for the tête-à-tête. It doesn’t necessarily take two to tango if one party is adamant, determined for it. On another area, it is sad when one is about to speak up, making the stand; someone shushes the individual on irrelevant grounds.
A family, I figure should make a point to have quality family time. My concerns are the ones that are completely ignorant of the issues their family may have even though all are staying under the same roof. They see each other every day, day in day out saying routine sentences. When things start to go wrong or a family unit crumbles, the blame practically goes entirely on the hectic schedule, lack of communication, fate and so forth; the ever-popular blame game.
What does it take for one to do a self-reflection and realize that the cause is really from our own self?
As adults, we have this general perception that kids do not know anything and that our word overrule theirs in every single way. The thing here is, things which we deem are right are based on our experiences then. The kids these days have their own standpoints that suit their situations. Most of the time, we disregard this fact. We are hearing them, but we are not listening. We choose to absorb information that is at our best interests, beneficial to us or something that we are familiar with while neglecting the others. That is not communication let alone effective communication. As long as we have this frame of mind, issues will not be solved; problems may prolong ultimately producing series of breakdowns.
How often does one communicate with their family? What is the kind of information one shares? Why is it so difficult to cut loose, open up and give the slip to your own flesh and blood as compared to someone that is out of the circle?Occasionally, people ask me to be the intermediary. When asked why they’re incapable to hold the conversation with the other, the reply will be the age, generation, cultural etc. gap. They haven’t even tried. I suppose, the hurdle is caused due to neither of the parties willing to initiate the initial step for the tête-à-tête. It doesn’t necessarily take two to tango if one party is adamant, determined for it. On another area, it is sad when one is about to speak up, making the stand; someone shushes the individual on irrelevant grounds.
A family, I figure should make a point to have quality family time. My concerns are the ones that are completely ignorant of the issues their family may have even though all are staying under the same roof. They see each other every day, day in day out saying routine sentences. When things start to go wrong or a family unit crumbles, the blame practically goes entirely on the hectic schedule, lack of communication, fate and so forth; the ever-popular blame game.
What does it take for one to do a self-reflection and realize that the cause is really from our own self?
To put the world in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must cultivate our personal life; and to cultivate our personal life, we must first set our hearts right.A thought.Confucius
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1 comment:
Beautiful post .... Exactly correct but unfortunately rare ... *sigh* ... I hope we can live by this ....
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